You CAN BE So Much Happier
Couples Coaching
“I know we love each other, but maybe we don’t really like each other so much.”
“We’ve lost the spark, and little stuff is leading to big fights, really big.”
“We used to have so much fun together, but now we spend most of our time apart, even when we’re home.”
“I want to get in a time machine and go back to when we were crazy for each other, because I miss it so much.”
“Now, I just feel lonely when we’re together.”
Realigning a Relationship that is OFF Track
Yes, long-term relationships are challenging – but so worth it.
Is it time you stopped feeling lonely, hurt, and misunderstood inside your own home? Or are you the one acting out with anger toward your spouse?
When I first became a Life Coach, I imagined using my training to work with couples. Then, I got a call from a wife who said her marriage looked like it was headed for divorce.
Although neither she, nor her husband wanted to end their marriage, they had no idea what else they could do to bring back their loving connection.
So, I started to work with them and found that all my techniques worked just as well for a couple as they did for an individual.
My approach to Couples Coaching
When I coach couples, I use a two-pronged approach.
First, we discuss where your relationship stands, why you’re unhappy, and what you want that you’re not getting.
I know this sounds simple; but couples have usually been feeling unhappy and distant for a while before they seek help, so they may not be able to see a better future.
Second, we’ll look to your individual lives to see if there are any trouble spots causing unhappiness. What I know for certain is that two people can’t have a Happy relationship if one (or both) is very dissatisfied with their own life.
Basically, you can’t be Happily married (or dating) to an unhappy person. This isn’t always a factor in a couple’s problems; but if it’s there, it needs to be a part of this process.
Reconnecting with each other
This work is about each person understanding what they feel and why, what they want from their partner, and being willing to take down the wall and open their heart to each other again.
I often start with each person writing down three small things their partner could do that would make them feel better. When each of them does these small things, it starts the process of feeling heard, seen, and cared for again.
Then, we keep building that connection back. It’s beautiful to watch the spark for each other return.
Coaching success story
One of my couples worked with me for a while and felt their relationship improved so much that they ended our work together.
About a year later, they called me and said things were still doing well, but some stuff was coming up; so they wanted to come in for a marriage tune-up.
During that session, they told me they now describe their relationship as “Before Nancy and After Nancy.”
Of course, they’re the ones responsible for making the daily choices to revive their loving relationship, but this describes the huge change Couples Coaching can make in your life.
Let’s get started finding that connection.
Contact me today at (630) 216-9911. Don’t let the distance grow wider in your relationship.